Plant and Grow your Relationship

Plant a seed, water it, weed it and enjoy it's fruits.
That is very much how this relationship thing is but the question is, what kind of seed are you planting?
The seed: The connection or chemistry as some would call it, that forms between two people is the seed we plant. Ensure that connection is not based on the wrong reasons like money, physical attraction or anything that is temporary and can wither or else that will be the nature of your seed.
The watering: once you both have developed that connection, you want to visit often (if possible), communicate freely and honestly, get to know each other's friends, show you care, be there for each other, sacrifice for each other, laugh and play with each other, learn and understand each other's character, support one other. This is how you water the seed.
Weed it: During this period of getting to know each other, there will be things about your partner you may not be very happy about so this is the time to let your partner know how you feel about such things. Also look into yourself as no one is perfect and get rid of those things your partner has told you he/she doesn't like, handle your bad habits as best you can before they become a problem in your relationship (just like weeds can kill your crops).
Enjoy the fruits of your labour: if all the previous steps are handled properly, you both would have developed a confidence and satisfaction in each other. That is not to say all will become perfect but if settling down is the next step, you will have a well trusted friend, companion and other half to battle the future storms with. There is a perfection in the imperfection of human nature.


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