GIVING GIFTS

When giving a gift to your partner, is it something you like or something your partner likes?

Every time its's Uju's husband's birthday, she buys him lovely expensive cards; Uju loves cards more than any gift you can get her so she buys him cards. Uju's husband Tommy loves sports wristwatches so much, there's something about those watches that just catches his attention wherever he goes so on Uju's birthday, he buys her sports wristwatches. No harm is meant here, just an innocent misunderstanding.

Each partner loves the other so much that they are afraid to hurt their feelings by telling them those gifts aren't really what they would like so they just say "thank you darling".

First of all, tune into the sort of things your partner loves so much, let your gifts to him/her be within those line.
Secondly, be respectfully honest about your opinion of the gifts they get you; you owe them that, by making statements like what Uju could have made for example, "oh, thank you so much darling but a sports wristwatch??? That's more like you don't you think?" 
Thirdly, NEVER complain about your partner's gift in front of people or to people; very disrespectful, it's personal.
Finally, when you realise you got your partner the wrong gift, it's alright to go wrong sometimes. It's called learning so simply apologise by saying something with the likes of, "oh! I'm sorry, that's true. Those are the sort of things i'd like but the gift is for you. Don't worry, next time i'll get you something better xx.". Sealed with a kiss.
Simple! A lesson is learned and a gift appreciated. These are not worth getting upset over.

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