THE POWER OF ATTRACTION

THE POWER OF ATTRACTION

What is it that catches your attention or makes you curious when you meet someone?

 I can list a few things that will have this effect like money, power, good looks; oh a very rich, powerful and handsome man appeals to most women. But these are outward attractions which could be quite temporary, quite different from the genuine allure between people who have something in common.

It is strongly believed that like poles repel and unlike poles attract, as seen in chemistry but lets talk about people. We see how individuals of very restless temperament, bursting with life and adventure are usually drawn to gentle and calm people. Volatile and highly irritable people are drawn to patient people. However different their characters may be, there must be some aspects they have in common which is actually what sustains the relationship. All the couples I have met have a story of how they came together and what keeps them together. These are two very important aspects; the temporary appealing features (money, power, looks, fun etc) can bring a couple together but it will not keep the relationship.

In the course of the relationship built on temporary attraction, there are two ways it can go; they grow to see things about each other they truly love, how their attitudes work together and how they genuinely want each other or they stay in the relationship because of what they have to gain until the temporary aspects are no more appealing, then things become bitter.

Also in the course of the relationship built on interpersonal attraction, there are two ways it can go too; the love grows strong on the memories of things they've shared and like about each other or they tend to take for granted what they love about each other and get carried away with temporary attractions that are constantly around. This can lead to a bitter breakdown of the relationship and you start haveing questions like, "what happened to the man/woman I loved so much?" 

These reasons why couples come together or separate are held in the power of the attraction which determines what our relationships will look like. Always ask yourself, 'what is it I love about this person, is it just the money, looks, fun or do we compliment each other and make each other better people?"