SEXUAL COMMUNICATION

SEXUAL COMMUNICATION 

Sex between couples is not just for procreation, it is meant to be enjoyed.
Why do we lie about our sexual likes and dislikes to the one person we should be open to?

  1. Embarrassment; that one person in the world that is supposed to love us however we are, needs to know what our sexual appetite is like. This is a crucial conversation that must be held between partners for their relationship to thrive. Don't be embarrassed, this is how we work things out because your partner needs to know to please you and you also need to know how to please him/her equally.
  2. Dishonesty; pretense and deceit during sex or about how we feel about it doesn't help anyone, it only helps get wrong results. No one's sexual appetite should be termed as wrong instead, try to understand why you like it like that, explain it to your partner and let him/her try and adjust to what you like. Without this, neither of you will be able to satisfy each other adequately.
  3. Impatience; you get what you give, that is the order of things. Some people require extra effort and attention to detail in order to enjoy sex. If your partner is that way and you are not, you need to be willing to go the extra mile to give what you are getting. Make him/her comfortable enough to tell you what they need and you should be willing to try.
  4. Concern; although this happens with both gender, it is more frequent with women. The reason is rather noble than mean however, it helps no one. This is when one person doesn't get sexual satisfaction but in an attempt not to hurt the other person's feeling, they claim it was "wonderful, great, amazing, the best they ever had". This is a form of deceit and one person lacks while the other person gains.
  5. Fear; If any partner is afraid to express himself/herself to the other half, that is a red flag in any relationship because free communication is the food that builds and sustains relationships.
  6. Lack of trust and understanding; as much as a couple may love each other, the difference between the nature of a man and a woman calls for understanding. The reaction of one person to the other determines the level of trust (this is the bond that holds both together) That two way communication -speaking and listening- must be developed and maintained.
Sexual communication therefore is understanding our partner's body language as well as talking freely about how we feel. 

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