IS LOVE REQUIRED RIGHT FROM THE START?

IS LOVE REQUIRED RIGHT FROM THE START?
I remember when I was in secondary school, my social studies teacher began a topic by "couples get together to date and sometimes marry for various reasons just to list a few; love, money, political alliances, cultural practices..."
This brings us to our topic of conversation. We know in history that marriages were arranged by the parents of the couple and most of them lived to see old age. The reasons for this differs; it was shameful to separate from once's partner so they suffered in silence, in other cases they grew to know and love each other over time.
These days we tend to pick our partners ourselves believing we know enough to determine if we can live with our chosen partner or believing that what we feel is almighty love. But we see more divorce/separation cases now.
So tell me, is love (or what we believe is love) required from the start or crucial values (respect, honesty, moral, values, similarities, maturity, responsibility etc) first then hopefully love will grow?

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