Do people Change
DO PEOPLE CHANGE?????
Reviewing situations between seven couples over a period of five years, I noticed some things that would never have occurred to me if I hadn't discussed my observation with a psychologist.
Couples get to know each other; their likes and dislikes, personality, attitude changes and in many cases their tendencies. However, in the cases of these couples I reviewed, over five years and they were still surprising each other by things they did.
Do people change?
Human beings are very complex, they even surprise themselves when situations change, so I tell people always; you only know the true character of a person when he/she:
- Suddenly becomes rich and powerful
- Experiences a damaging situation where everything he/she had is lost
- Is going through grief
- You depend on someone for great help
and such other drastic changes. People do not change but their tendencies are amplified when situations around them drastically change (when push turns to shove). When couples say their partner has changed, there was an aspect of their partner they didn't see which has been amplified due to changes in situations. Bear in mind this change is not always unfavorable, you might actually like his/her new side.
How do you handle it when you suddenly realise this sometimes unfavorable side of your partner.
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